Has this ever happened to you?
Imagine a scenario...
You are in a meeting, and there is a certain topic being discussed.
Deep inside, you have a LOT to say about it..and you even start to share your ideas or insights, BUT, at the last moment you stop.
Because you hear a voice inside you chime in…
- No one wants to hear that, they won’t find it interesting
- They already know it, you wont be adding value
- What if they don’t care?
- If you speak up, your idea better be outstanding or flashy or brilliant or original, otherwise its not worth sharing
- Suppose they criticize your idea, will you really be able to take it?
- What if they laugh at you? Sooo much safer to just be quiet..
So you back down and say nothing.
Only to find that 5 minutes later, someone else says exactly the same thing or almost exactly what you were going to say, and they get a phenomenal response.
And then you think, I could have said that or I could have been the one saying that!
And this leaves you feeling frustrated...at the person who was bold enough to speak up & at yourself for not daring to.
I’m curious, if this sounds familiar to you?
This is something I myself have experienced in the past and I now work with women who often feel this way, when we start working together.
And it doesn’t happen only in a place of employment..it can be a family setting, or amongst friends, or any other place.
This is such a seemingly common occurrence, but its a problem.
Now why is this a problem?
The problem, is that these are intelligent & brilliant women who have a LOT of wisdom and insight to share.
And their voice & perspective is important, has value and must be heard.
But when we shy away from sharing our insight, due to the ‘noise’ that blocks our true voice, then we don’t get to express our wisdom and the world doesn’t get to experience it either.
Their true voice gets overridden by the voice of the ‘noise’.
One aspect of this noise is the inner critic or the judge within you.
Its not your real voice, which is your own wisdom, but the noise that blocks your wisdom from coming through.
It prevents you from sharing your wisdom with the external world.
What is worse, is that this noise often prevents you from even acknowledging your own wisdom or that you even have wisdom to share.
We each have our own unique brilliance, and we’ve come here to develop that brilliance and share it with the world.
But if we cannot see that for ourselves, it becomes harder to speak it out and share with others.
One of the 3 main blocks
This noise of the inner critic is one of the 3 main blocks that undermine our sense of personal authority.
Because for the inner critic, nothing you do or say is good enough.
Now we don’t want to turn this voice off completely because it stems from a desire to keep you safe, it wants you to improve and has a discerning quality to it.
But when the noise of the inner critic is active, it prevents you from bringing forth the authentic you and your unique wisdom.
Once you recognize where this noise shows up, and start to clear it and transform it, your voice literally changes and comes through more confidently.
- You are able to share your ideas & insights without worrying about how others will perceive it.
- You are able to improve without shaming or bullying yourself.
- You become bolder in expressing yourself...unless you run into the 2nd noise which is fear (more on that in the next article or you can check out the masterclass I did last week on this very topic).
When you can see for yourself, the value your wisdom has and consistently share that wisdom, it develops your sense of mastery in a field or topic.
You have incredible wisdom to share.
The part of you that is resisting this, that does not want to acknowledge it, is embroiled in the ‘noise’ (fear, inner critic, unresolved pain of past rejection or experience).
And, the sad thing is, the noise that prevents you from acknowledging your mastery, is ALSO the noise that blocks you from having clarity on your calling.
**So how do we solve this problem? **The solution is to
- Soften the noise,
- Learn to identify where and how it shows up and
- Transform it into your voice of personal authority.
Interested in learning more and developing a voice that rings with your truth and power?
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